Hey all, this is my redo of my original post, this one will have pics added with video and schematics
Parts
Talismoon Whisper Fan BlueSickmods 360 FaderBlue Backlit Start and Back Buttons from LlamaPart 1. The Talismoon 12V Fans With Variable Speed
I used a 10 ohm Rheostat( Pot, Variable resister, or potentiometer) with at least a 12 Watt rating in series with my fans. I used the 12V power from under the mobo connecter with the PSU, best source, clean,reliable, not dangerous!

There you can see the rheostat mounted on the case nest to the fans, some minor soldering was required and minor clipping of the fans plastic on the side Here you can see how i mounted the rheostat specifically so that the pin comes out of the hole in the case already.

also i installed a 12V fan from an old P2 cpu heatsink onto my cpue with the stock 4 screws and screwed(wedged) emn into the fins, they run on the same 12V pin as the otehr fans.

Part 2. The Sickmods 360 Fader with DPDT Center-off swtich Installed
I really liked the prospect of the 360 fader from sickmods, but not all the time, and not only one color wither, so after talking with the designer i decided on using a Double Pole Double Throw Center - off switch to control the on/off state as well as the color depicted. In my 360 i have blue smds installed as primary and white as secondary.
The wiring for the switch is shown here

also here are a few images of the installed switch and fader, a whhole was required for not only the for the swicth but for the wires going from the wireless module to the swicth

there is liquid electrical tape around the contacts

Xbox 360 running with fan speed control and sickmods switch installedAll done

Part 3. 360 Wireless controller with The llama.com backlit start and back buttons
pretty much everything is summed up in the schematic

before i figured that out i had the LED buttons wired directly to the battery terminals, so that the buttons would always be light even if the controller want on, So i used a NPN transister from radioshack in series after the two leds with the base hooked up to a pin shown in the images , that goes high when the controllers is on and low when it is off.

heres 2 videos, a schematic video and a working running video
Schematic VideoWorking Videoenjoy