sorry dude.. been away.
Let's try updating your router first.
According to what you said, yours is a BEFSR41 ver 2 so the file you need to download and update your firmware with is THIS ONE
To update your firmware, you need to go to your web based configuration program for your Linksys.
Open Internet explorer and go to: 192.168.1.1 and search trough the tabs untill you find one that says "Update firmware" it probably is under the support tab.
Once you find it, unzip the file and browse to the location that .bin file is on the update firmware thing from you linksys. Hit the Update Firmware button. That should get it up to date. Make sure your're not downloading or uploading anything anything at that time just to make it safer.
Once the flashing is done, go back to your web based configuration page and check on the firmware version, it should say now: Firmware Date : July 31, 2003Current Firmware : Version 1.45.7
Ok, that's that, just try and see if you box would work updating the firmware.. if not, we'll have to keep looking for an answer. I read somebody post a similar case and offer his help... you might consider giving it a try.
Good luck, hope you get it this time
Ps: one more thing... have you tried AOL support live chat? If not, go to http://welcometoaol.mhi.aol.com/welcometoaol.asp
. I recomend updating your firmware for your router anyways, just to be up to date.