I just got my duo2x lite for divine.net dude i never thought it was that small!! I thought it was way bigger it seems i need to get a super thin soldering tip.

Yeah, it's pretty small. All chips are, though. Make sure you bookmark http://www.fixnchipz.co.uk/. This is the best resource for the DuoX2 installation issues, should you have any.

Know i dont have any wires i made a thread long a couple days ago and someone said i could use some from an ide cable ise this true just making sure.

you shouldnt need a super fine tip to put a duo-lite on.
a good tip for putting the D0 point on the top of the xbox mobo sure. but the point underside is easier.
ive also used ide cable and it worked ok,but u cant beat kynar....

You can use the ide cable, but a roll of 30 gauge wire from radio shack is only like 3 bucks.