I had no luck finding a VGA cord with all 15 wires inside and none of the ends were going to fit inside the memory card port without major hacking of one or the other.
So I decided to try a different cord, hdmi. I found a really cheap 3 foot hdmi extension cord on ebay. It has all the wires needed and the end slides into the memory card port flush with minimal trimming.
Now I need to find a male to male cord with the same pinout and wire color, i've already bought two cheap hdmi cords and found both to be lacking the same wire color or pinout of color.
Here is a good pic of the duke and nes modded controllers.